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Being in a State-of-Limbo is not a fun place but it’s only as difficult as we make it out to be. What many don’t realize is there are simple measures they can take to boot themselves out of limbo, but have made the transition in their head to be much more dramatic than it actually is. The situation you are faced with may be difficult, but moving past limbo is ultimately easy.
If you don’t know what I mean by being in this place called limbo, read one of my previous posts, The State-of-Limbo.
1) Weigh the pros and cons and then decide based on the ratios you come up with.
This is a very classic method to use. As a refresher, here’s a simple explanation on how to do this. You get a piece of paper and a pen. You write down at the top of the page a one to two sentence summary of the situation you are currently in then underneath you write down each possible choice you can make with two columns labelled Pros and Cons under each choice.
As soon as you’ve done this, try and consider every possibility and write the Pros and Cons. Ultimately what you want to do is tally them up and look at the positive and negative ratios. One thing is keep in mind is the fact that you’re a biased opinion. Sometimes in order to solve problems we need to look at the situation from a different perspective so I would suggest that after tallying everything, ask someone you can trust to review what you’ve done. Ask them for suggestions and their take on what could possibly happen. Maybe this outside perspective will shed some light to the circumstances and allow you to understand the situation better.
When making the decision, just remember to keep outside opinions in mind.
2) Follow your gut feeling.
Another classic right here. For the most part, this method works pretty well. If you don’t feel comfortable about a certain choice, chances are you just shouldn’t pick it. If you really feel that the most popular choice doesn’t seem to be a good one, don’t pick it. On the other hand, if you do feel very confident well then go for it! Just remember to keep in mind that the positive and the negative that our body is telling us will come out of it, may not be the one that we think will happen. Just remember to not hold expectations because it almost always leads to disappointment. Your body may be telling you something that you haven’t really conceived of yet and whatever positive results your body is telling you will get may not be the positive results you want.
Your body is wise, so take its advice! Remember you and your body may not be on similar pages so you may find you won’t get the results you wanted. In the long run you will be better off, but in the short-term it may seem like the wrong decision. Keep an open mind.
3) Ask for advice from others that have faced the same sort of situation you are in.
It is helpful to ask advice from others who have had similar experiences to you. Senators wouldn’t ask Dr. Phil for advice on future legislation right? So why should you ask a Physicist for marital guidance? (Not to say that physicists don’t get married and can’t possess this knowledge. The kind of advice I’m referring to is the advice from a marriage counsellor.)
Throughout life you will find that many people love to give advice but many don’t take it. If you’re nutritionist is overweight, then maybe you should see a new nutritionist. If your housemaid looks sloppy and bummish, then get a new housemaid. If it walks like a duck and talks like a duck…then it’s a duck.
If you are having relationship issues and you’re looking for advice, don’t go to a friend that jumps around from relationship to relationship with issues in each. He/she isn’t the person to talk to even though they may have similar experiences to you. Remember to not just ask for advice from people who understand the situation you’re in, but also ask from people who have come out of adversity positively. You want to make the most positive decision you can and you don’t want to ask for positive advice from a negative person because chances are, you’ll get negative advice.
4) If the situation can be changed, decide to change it. If the situation can’t be changed, learn to live with it.
There are situations in our lives where we feel we can’t change them, but because of our perspective we can’t see those ins and outs of making change. There are of course situations where there is absolutely nothing we can do about it and we just have to learn to live with it.
Take for example the businessman who has found his passion is art. He hates his job and hates his boss and wants to follow his passion for creating artwork but is not sure how to do it. Usually people want to make the situation more difficult than it needs to be so they will miss the obvious solution to this situation; tell your boss, “I quit.” There will be many that feel that quitting your job is not a feasible possibility, but many people tend to sell themselves short. (There are ways to make a living while pursing a creative-type career such as art. Tell your boss that he’s fired and read this article from Genius Types. Brian explains how to use passive income to make a living while pursuing your dreams. Just a heads up.)
Now let’s take for example someone who has just been diagnosed with Diabetes. There is not much this person can other than follow all of the instructions their doctor has given them and learn to live with their ailment. Complaining about it doesn’t help because it doesn’t cure Diabetes. Throw complaints and expectations aside and learn to make the situation as positive as possible by keeping yourself as healthy and as happy as you can.
Learn to identify changeable situations and change them!
5) Flip a coin.
If you’re on your last thread and you have absolutely no idea what to do, decide that you will commit to whatever the coin happens to flip. This isn’t the most intelligent option, but who knows, maybe it’s fate that you choose the action the coins flips. No matter what, you are better in motion than not in motion. Making a decision is better than making the decision to not make one.
6) Toss fear of the unknown aside and just decide!
Going along with the flip of a coin, you make life much easier when you learn to set aside limiting fears and just make a decision. As said before, you are better off making the wrong choice than not making a decision so forget about fear and just pick!
7) Research the topics related to your situation and from your new knowledge gathered, make the most intelligent decision you can.
Educating yourself is the best way to go to prepare for decision-making. Ultimately, every fear is rooted in fear-of-the-unknown, so absorb as much information as you can. You may find that the situation wasn’t as bad as you initially thought. Education will put you in a better position to make the best choice.
Let’s say you just started playing the stock market and you have the important decision of selling or keeping a particular stock. It doesn’t help to not know anything about the stock market, so if you don’t have the knowledge, your chances of making bad decision raises tremendously. Now if you have some basic knowledge you may be able to recognize what kind of opportunity you have and based on that you can make a much more educated decision.
Any knowledge is better than no knowledge.
Have confidence in yourself
Remember to always believe in yourself. Don’t ever sell yourself short and don’t ever give up on yourself! You have all that you need to develop the skill and make the right decision and when this is mixed with confidence you are unbeatable. There isn’t anything you can’t do, so try to understand how far having confidence in yourself goes.
9) Relax.
Relax and understand that your essence as a person will be exactly the same before and after your decision. There will be life and death situations that you may need to make concerning health, but to know that your essence will be completely untouched no matter what you do helps to put everything into perspective.
So just relax and jump in head first!
10) Look to the future.
Always remind yourself what results you want. If you do this, you help your mind focus on the results and based on this, will help you narrow down the choices you need to make in order to achieve those results. No matter how dismal your present may seem, stay true to your dreams and you will find a way to get there. You will make the choices you need to and you will achieve your goals.
Just remember, pass it on.
-YoYo
Over the years I have become familiar with what I call ‘the State-of-Limbo.’ Yes it is a very horrible state to be in and it’s sad to say but I believe that a very great majority of people suffer from this each day. Well…it’s not as dramatic as I made it out to seem initially, but being in this state can be quite hellish. Another term that describes limbo perfectly is indecision. Being in a state-of-indecisiveness is a pretty messy place to be because where ripped at the seams by different choices we want to make. This conflict can put many in a state of confusion and inaction. In simple terms, being indecisive puts you in a state-of-stagnation and because the two choices you have partially made are in conflict with one another, this conflict ultimately causes procrastination and laziness.
(I have already written an article talking about procrastination that you can read here to help round your knowledge about this state-of-limbo.)
On www.GeniusTypes.com, Brian writes about three ways creative-type people can really develop their passions. To give a little background information, creative-type people are those who have many creative interests whether it is art, music, film, dance, business, etc. These types of people (and I’m included in this group) are guilty of having many hobbies and with having so many interests, they usually start too many projects at once and have no time to accomplish them. Think of this group of people as Jacks-of-All-trades but a master at none. Let me say that there is absolutely nothing wrong with having many interests and hobbies, but I have found that once you begin to channel and focus your talents and energies on one medium you will find you live a much more fulfilling life. This is exactly what Brian talks about in his article; the three ways for creative-types to live a fulfilling life: Maximum focus, Maximum Persistence, Minimum Resistance.
Being a creative-type, I didn’t really want to listen to Brian tell me that I had to pick one hobby and stick with it. I loved to do too many things to have to all of a sudden pick just one. Over time, as I relaxed the idea in my mind, I began to realize how important this is; how important it is to, with all of your heart, make one choice and stick with it.
There will be many times in life where you will find yourself at a crossroads between multiple choices. You don’t know which decision to make so you just stand there looking at the road signs, debating and contemplating in your mind what the best decision is. When we find both positive and negative advantages for each choice, we tend to stick one leg down one path and one arm down another. Splitting yourself between paths creates much inner conflict because you are torn between to contradicting solutions and because you never fully commit, you never actually the full results because one side of your brain is stuck on one end of the corridor and the other side of your brain is trying to turn the knob. You have to jump right in and use both feet while walking down your chosen path because then you put yourself in a better position to make good decisions in the future.
Say for example you find an obstacle up ahead of you, if you’re in a split-decision situation, you may not put all the resources available to you to walk over that fallen tree. In the back of your head you’re thinking, “I told you not to go this way and look at what’s happened?!” This unnecessary anxiety hinders your ability to bring your whole mind into the present moment to solve the problem that is at hand. If you never put your all into trying to find a solution, you will never actually know if the path you have chosen was the best choice. How will you ever know if you don’t put your heart and soul into it?
Now we’re getting into the fear aspect of limbo. Many people are afraid to fully commit because they don’t know what the final results will bring. They want to pick the choice that will bring them the results they want but they’re afraid to take the leap into the unknown because they don’t know where the path leads. As Steve Pavlina, this is being in a state of ready-aim-aim-aim-aim-aim. Did you notice I didn’t write fire? Well that’s exactly what this causes, a state of aim, aim, aim and no action. Now what gets done? Nothing.
One thing people don’t realize is they feel that once they’ve gone down one road, they won’t be able to go back. In some cases this is true, but what many don’t realize is there will be future crossroads down the way that may present even better choices than before. Don’t forget you can also forge your own pathways as well. Usually forging takes a bit more often, but more often than not these are the choices that bring the most joy and happiness.
Now this comes down to a choice? Do you really want to accomplish your dreams? If you do, you will make good decisions and bad ones, but each path you choose brings you closer to your dreams whether it seems like it or not. Making and committing to one choice fully will give you the courage you need to carve through the foliage into the unknown. We’ve seen it done in the past, what makes you think you can’t do it now?
Just remember, pass it on.
-YoYo
Supposedly those who are right-brained tend to be absent-minded and suffer most from procrastination. I am both right and left-brained so I guess that explains why all my life I have been majorly affected by procrastination. = ) I thought it was fun to mentioned right or left-brained dominance, but through my experiences, procrastination doesn’t seem to discriminate when it comes to what side of the brain you use most often.
As with many others, I’ve been going to school all my life and it’s frustrating to procrastinate doing class work. I can imagine that it doesn’t pay to procrastinate in the workforce either; I’ve only worked in the food industry, what do I know? = P. By the time I reached my sophomore year of college, I was completely fed up of pulling all-nighters to work on papers and study for tests that I had known about for weeks. For me, I felt it is so unproductive to force myself into pressure situations like that and I just didn’t want to deal with it anymore. So when a new semester came about I decided to take my time management in a whole new direction. I was determined to avoid those stressful situations I always put myself in throughout my schooling career.
The first thing I did was educate myself with different methods others have used to bust procrastination out of the water. All of the articles and blog posts I read were very helpful, but in the end I felt I didn’t build a ladder tall enough to reach the moon; there was something I was still missing in the equation.
As some of you may know, I am an avid Northern Shaolin practitioner. I have many books on Shaolin Kung Fu that I read most everyday and I learn very insightful things about life and goal achievement-it’s safe to say that these warrior monks were the cream of the crop when it comes to successful people. I was revisiting past lessons one day and I realized that there were two things that I learned that can be applied to beating procrastination, 1) relax and just go head on and 2) want to do what you’re doing.
Relax and Just Go Head On:
In Kung Fu, students are taught to relax the body when experiencing moments of physical pain. Tensing and contracting your muscles and ligaments actually makes the pain worse. Kung Fu students are taught to accept the pain and through this acceptance your mind and body are relaxed and you suddenly turn a stressful situation into a more relaxed experience.
The same can be applied to every day life. Let’s say you work as a project manager and you are required each week to give reports on your team’s progress. You hate everything about them and it is a real struggle to get yourself to put in the work needed to get the job done. When you struggle, reject and procrastinate performing duties you are responsible for, which makes for a very stressful situation. Your mind and body tense up and you are unwilling to comply. It seems as if you have to literally push yourself to work on these reports.
The only person that can make the task harder is yourself. You know that in order to keep your job and support yourself you need to do these reports. There is no going around the situation. You are in a room and the only way out is to walk up to the door, grab the knob and simply open it, yet you are unwilling to even look at it. If you learn to accept your situation and accept the fact that if you want to keep your job you need to do your assignments, you reduce the stress-level tremendously. With acceptance, you cancel out any anxiety and strain you bring to the situation and with this extra space you have given yourself, you have room to get down and dirty.
Learn to fully accept the situation and you make the doing a much easier process. (Of course, if you sincerely don’t like the situation then by all means change it via quitting your job, etc, etc. If you are unwilling to change the situation, then don’t complain about it. Now with this, we’re going into a whole new topic that I’ll cover another day.)
Actually Want to Do It:
“If I want to do it, nothing is difficult. If I don’t want to do it, nothing is easy.”
-Sifu Shi Yan Ming
This quote is probably one of the most influential ones I’ve ever read and applied to my life. I have never learned so much from one quote. If you take this to heart you will become unbeatable. It is never that you don’t have the ability to accomplish your goals and getting things done, it’s mastering and ultimately deciding exactly what it is you want. If you convince and focus yourself to want something, you will become unstoppable and you will bring your ‘heart’s deepest desires’ into reality.
As corny as that may sound, think back to old Disney movies and things you were told when you were a wee youngster; hold your dreams in your heart and mind and your they will come true. Choose to go 100% down a certain path and you will reach your destination. The only obstacle is yourself and completely choosing your path. Many find themselves torn between many different options and their indecisiveness makes them vulnerable to procrastination, underachievement and stagnation.
I tell my younger brothers this and each time they get mad at me for saying this. I tell them, if you want to get an A in your chemistry class you will, but if you don’t want to you will surely not.
As Steve Pavlina taught in his podcast, Faster Goal Achievement, the same applies here. When someone tells you about a goal they want to achieve, you can basically tell whether or not they will put in the work to accomplish it. Steve illustrates this perfectly when he says, “You know they will achieve their goals because they get it. Their end result resonates within them.” This is another way of saying they have chosen, 100%, to achieve their goal.
You may be familiar with the quote from Archimedes, “Give me a lever, a place to stand and I shall move the world.” Master your ability to make complete decisions and the world will kneel before you.
Just remember, pass it on.
-YoYo
